Abstinence & Celibacy
Abstinence
Abstinence is choosing to abstain from all or some sexual activities and behaviors. Abstinence can mean many different things to different people, and there are a lot of reasons why folks might be abstinent. These reasons can range from spiritual and religious beliefs to risk reduction for STIs.
Some folks chose to be abstinent as a means of preventing pregnancy. This can mean choosing not to have penetrative vaginal sex entirely, choosing not to have vaginal penetrative sex on days when the person with a uterus is most fertile, or choosing to participate in some sexual behaviors but not others (such as engaging in oral sex but not penetrative vaginal sex).
For many folks, abstinence is often tied to a particular time or event. For example, some people chose to be abstinent until they are married. Others may choose to be abstinent during exams or a busy time of the year. Most commonly, though, abstinence is viewed as a short-term decision to refrain from sexual activity.
You can be abstinent for any reason - it’s your choice!
Celibacy
Celibacy, like abstinence, is a decision not to engage in sexual activity. The difference between the two is often defined by sex educators as one of time. Abstinence tends to be more time-bound and short term, whereas celibacy is often more of a long-term lifestyle choice.
For some, celibacy is a commitment to abstain from anything related to sex, including things like dating, kissing, and masturbation. It is sometimes a commitment made to devote time and energy to other, non-sexual pursuits, such as spiritual learning or to nurture non-sexual relationships. Many religious traditions, for example, embrace celibacy as a practice.